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I wonder what it’s like to be loved by you?

Have you heard that song by Shawn Mendes? I remember it exactly, the first time I’ve ever heard this song and I wondered so hard so hard to figure out who to think about when I’m listening to this song! LOL I imagined my nephew who was just born… I imagined the Love Of my Life in the future. I imagined all these people in my life until one dayyyy.. I was listening to this music while looking at the mirror and I wondered I wondered what it was like to be loved by me. I know I joke around with my friends all the time changed the “You” on any love song and change it to “I” or “ME” when you’re going through a break up! lol (Try it, it works! It makes people laugh and it’ll make you laugh and in turn make you feel better!)

Anyways, so I started wondering.. I wondered what it meant to be loved by me… I’ve been working really really hard to love myself.. but this song made me wonder why I am working so hard! lol I’m working so hard to be more confident, to be more brave to be less insecure, to be nicer or more kind. To be the most understanding person, the happiest, the most grateful person in the world. Until one day, I realized that all I needed to do was to love myself exactly as I am!

Yeah! You got it right! I preached so much about “YEAH LOVE YOURSELF”! It really gets out of hand sometimes. For months, I’ve been waking up almost everyday at 5am just to make sure that I am able to read something to improve myself. I’ve been waking up at 5am to make sure that I am working out and doing my best to stay fit and glowing. I thought this was me loving myself! BUT IT WAS ME thinking there’s something I need to improve about myself, hence, there’s something wrong with me! There is nothing wrong with me! And I was looking at everything so wrong. There’s nothing wrong with improving your life but what I came to terms with is that I must love myself for who I am now. It’s the truest me I can ever be. This me now is the truest me I’ll ever be and all the improvements will just be a fragment of who I am becoming. Who I am now is the truest me I can ever be.

I wonder, why I’m so afraid of saying something wrong, I never said I was a saint

I never said I’m perfect. I don’t know why I was trying so hard to be one. It’s so easy to tell people that there is no such thing as perfect. I tell people that all the time not realizing that I was striving to be one too. HYPOCRITE. LOL I know but that’s okay! lol I’m okay now!

I’m cultivating a fearless life for myself at the moment. I’m learning to accept myself for exactly who I am. Insecurity and all! I’m accepting that fear is present in my life and that the best thing to do is accept that it is part of who I am. Today, I am happy but tomorrow I may not be. Today, I’m brave but tomorrow I may not be. I will never be 100 percent happy all the time. I will never be 100 percent confident all the time. I will never be 100 percent disciplined all the time. I’m okay with that now. I’m releasing myself from the battle I created for myself. I know I am not perfect and I know I may say or do things that are not perfect or right but that is okay. I know I am a good person all together and that is the most important thing about me that I know for sure to be true. I don’t have any bad intentions. I’m just being myself and I know at the end of the day all I want is to be a good person; giving people the best that I can. It’s a beautiful freeing feeling to know that I can be who I am no matter what. It doesn’t have to be perfect; it just has to be free.

Now, how beautiful is it to wonder how you can truly love yourself? Maybe, we shouldn’t wonder so much and just do it. Love and accept ourselves for exactly who we are. One day, there will be no more wondering, one day soon – how beautiful would it be to be the most loving person you can ever be for yourself? Right? RIGHT! lol

Yours Truly Yours,

Pia ❤

I’m ok with who I am!

I’m ok with who I am!

Repeat after me: I’m ok with who I am! 10x

My friends, it’s time! It’s time for us to stop comparing, to stop wanting something to be something else! It’s time for us to be happy with who we are now.

I was listening to Joel Osteen’s podcast, Be Comfortable With Who You Are , he talked about running your own race.. being able to celebrate others without feeling like you have to catch up… he told a story about how he focused so much on passing someone while on a run he didn’t realized he was 6 blocks away from his house! That’s what happens when you focus on other people’s race. You make it longer for you to reach your destination.

The podcast inspired me to write about being happy with who we are!

• Do you not feel happy with who you are?

• Do you find yourself always wanting to change?

• Do you find yourself always comparing yourself and your journey from others?

Well, if your answer is yes to any of the questions above, you need to stop it! Stop it already!

God created us to be exactly who we are.

Everyone was created to fulfill a purpose that is different for everyone! No one is ever more special than you to God. We are all equal in his eyes. He doesn’t care if you make the most money or if you have all the degrees in the world! He only cares about how and what you do with your life’s purpose.

The more you love yourself the more you open yourself up to God’s purpose for you!

Remind yourself everyday to Love every single bit of you, from your body to your mind and to your soul & spirit! It’s you, it’s always been you!

You don’t have to be the skinniest or the fastest, the smartest or the prettiest! What matters is what’s in your heart and that you be the best you you can ever be.

A heart filled with love will be much more beneficial for you than a heart filled with discontent.

Everyday, every minute repeat the mantra: I am ok with who I am!

Every time doubt cripples in: I am ok with who I am!

Every time you feel behind: I am ok with who I am!

Every time someone mocks you, disrespects you: I am ok with who I am!

Keep that in mind: I am ok with who I am!

What’s for you will be for you! You just have to love YOU and let the rest flow naturally!

xoxo,

pia

IG@piawiaventures!

Reference:

Joel Osteen, Podcast “Be Comfortable With Who You Are”

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joel-osteen-podcast/id137254859?i=1000444682756

Melody Beatle, Journey to the Heart, Daily Meditation on the Path to Freeing Your Soul

The Ultimate Relationship Goal

Hi All!

I wanted to tackle special relationships and holy relationships: concepts derived from the book, A Course in Miracles.

Many people struggle with creating a healthy and loving relationship for themselves, may it be with a significant other, friends, family and even things. I can attest to this because I struggle even up to today with keeping healthy relationships. I’ve read so many books about love and relationships and I feel that they talk about the same exact concepts. But here I break it down into two and discern both concept as best as I could.

I would like to first warn you that I do not have any expertise in relationships. I have not taken any courses or received any certifications or diploma that may deem me as an expert. I am simply sharing the things I learn in hopes that it enlightens someone elses life the way that it did mine.

So here it goes……………………

According to A Course in Miracles (ACIM), there are two types of relationships: the special relationship and the holy relationship. Yes, they both sound completely harmless but I do favor one more than the other. I will let you take a guess…

In this blog, I’m going to talk about both separately. These are completely my own understanding of the two concepts. I’ve been working a lot on creating a healthy lifestyle for myself where I am completely taking care of myself deeply and lovingly. When I read about special relationships in The Universe Has Your Back by Gabby Bernstein,  a light bulb turned on for me. I thought: “This is the kind of relationships I’ve been having all these times!” and I wanted to change that. I wanted something better for myself and the people I love. I wanted to keep and maintain a healthy relationship with myself and others. I feel that I’ve created a safe place for myself through reading and learning about special relationships and I am ready to share them.

A special relationship is basically finding your happiness through something outside yourself! It doesn’t necessarily have to be a romantic relationship. It can be anything: friendship, money, things, etc. Special relationships make you feel complete. Special relationships make you romanticize things or a person/people to the point where it feels as though you’re incomplete without them. This is a sign that you are not finding happiness within yourself.

I struggled a lot with special relationships. I was in denial, often times, playing a role of someone who seems strong and independent, someone who didn’t need anyone. I realized that wanting to be that person is different from actually being that person. I’ve managed to play that role for a while until I was forced to face reality. I wasn’t getting any younger and I wasn’t getting any happier either! I depended on people to make me happy. I looked for answers and validation from the people around me. I found comfort with purchasing things I didn’t need. I constantly look for something/someone to fill the holes in my life but ultimately feeling empty once that certain thing/person is gone, being upset when they don’t turn out as planned and jumping from one relationship to the next. That was me but not anymore.

It took a lot of drama, a lot of heartache, a lot of losing friends and fighting with family for me to realize that I wasn’t close to the person I wanted to be, the person I truly am. I was constantly looking for happiness from outside myself. Having this revelation made me ache for something more, more meaningful and more fulfilling. I didn’t want to depend on anything or anyone to make me happy. I wanted to step out of my comfort zone and find out what it truly meant to be truly happy and that is where I found and learned about the HOLY relationship.

Holy Relationship is the one I favor more (a term derived from ACIM). It isn’t holy in religious terms. It’s holy because it is pure love. You are a whole as yourself and you find happiness within yourself despite of whatever you have and don’t have. You don’t depend on others, people or things, to keep yourself happy. You rely on your inner self to be and stay happy.

Being in a Holy Relationship is being in a loving relationship with yourself that ultimately leads to healthier relationships with others. Establishing a holy relationship leads to relationships that feels free, relationships that only requires you to be yourself and allowing others to be themselves too.

As mentioned before, I am not a relationship expert. I still find myself clinging on to things and people. Sometimes it takes me weeks to realize that the reason why someone/something was bothering me so much was because I was holding on too tightly to the idea of happiness something or someone brings into my life. I forget that happiness is within and not something outside myself. I wasn’t having a holy relationship I was having a special relationship and I constantly remind myself of what my relationship goals are and that is to have a Holy Relationship. (Wholly Relationship)

I feel that knowing the differences between Holy and Special relationships help in establishing healthy relationships for yourself and others. Being aware of their differences can help create a path where you could choose which way your relationships could ultimately go. There is no time limit in choosing either, any time you can decide what kind of relationship you want to have. I find that joy is a choice that we make. It’s a decision to free ourselves from looking for love outside ourselves. It’s finding peace from within. I think that is the secret for having and keeping relationships.

Relationships are meant to highlight you as the person that you are, one that is already complete by yourself. It is not meant to fill the emptiness that you feel inside. The emptiness you feel could only be filled by the love you’ll have for yourself.

“You are not incomplete, and no one can complete you. You are eternally, unassailable, undeniably whole.” – Alan Cohen

So, I hope that I shed some light for you. I hope that this leads you to think and evaluate the kind of relationships you want to have in your life.

What kind of relationship would you like for yourself? Did this give you some thoughts about the relationships that you have now? Could there be a person or thing that feels like a special relationship for you? Will you take steps to create more holy relationships in your life?

My only wish is that we could all feel an inch of peace within ourselves even if it takes long. Even if the road can sometimes be so hard and sometimes it’ll feel like you’re alone. In the end, finding yourself and loving yourself is ultimately the best relationship goal you can ever ask for!

Thank you for reading and have a nice day!

xoxo,
pia

The Amazing Mom That You Are!

Hey You!

You Amazing Mom

Who brought all of us into life.

You Amazing Mom

Who stood up for us when we couldn’t, YET!

You Amazing Mom

Who knew our pain when no one else did!

You Amazing Mom

Who stayed up with us to make sure we’re ok through the night

You Amazing Mom

Who gave up time for yourself to spend time with us.

You Amazing Mom

Who stands in front of us

No Rest

No Sleep

You stand here with a smile

Ready to face another battle of life with us.

We admire your unconditional love for us, your passion to keep us all alive!

To all the moms, new and old, soon-to-be’s and one day will be, you are amazing.

Thank you for all you do!

Special thanks to the moms in my life that inspires me and challenges me to be a better person.

Special thanks to my mom for showing me everyday what it means to unconditionally love someone.

Special thanks to my sister and sister-in-law for bringing so much joy in our lives.

Thank you all for reading my thoughts!

~Always be kind and always choose love!~ 

xoxo,
Pia

Aha Moment – 5.10.2019

Realizing that being mindful of the things I say is very important. 

Especially about the things that I say about myself. 

I am creating a safe place for myself [in my mind], where I can be myself always: no judgment & no shame just Trust & Love. 

This moment gave me the opportunity to change my views & to (work towards) loving myself more. An opportunity to create a world for myself where the Universe is not the only one that has my back but a world where I have my back too. 

 ~ Always Be Kind and Always Choose Love ~ 

Love Always,                                                                                                                                            Pia 

Some quotes for guidance into creating a world of love for yourself:

“Transformation starts with how we use our words – how we speak our story to others and ourselves.” – Heatherash Amara, Warrior Goddess Training 

“Be impeccable with your words.” – don Miguel, Four Agreements [faultless, flawless, guiltless]

“Any opinion not presented in Love should not be considered.” – Rachel Hollis, Girl, Stop Apologizing. [may it be from you or others]

“What comes out of your mouth comes into your life, so choose your words wisely.” – Jen Sincero, You Are A Badass Everyday

“There is no more powerful motivation than to feel we’re being used in the creation of a world where love has healed all wounds.” – Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love 

Aligning with Life…

A few years ago, I stumbled upon a page on instagram, Warrior Training Goddess. I believe the page found me or the universe was slightly directing me to this page. There was a lot of positive quotes and encouragement present in that instagram page that ultimately led me to purchasing the book, Warrior Goddess Training by Heatherash Amara. I’ve had the book for a while but I waited to read it. Now, while reading this book, I asked the question, What does it mean to be aligned with life?

 

To answer this for myself, I started with the quote below (that I gathered from the book itself):

 

“Aligning with life means committing to our intent, or goals, 100 percent as well as surrendering to the outcome, whatever it may be.”

 

In my own understanding,

 

Aligning with life means giving it your all, in whatever it may be: intent, goals, dreams. & then being able to accept whatever the outcome is, good or bad.

 

It’s not regretting the hard work you put into achieving your dreams.

 

It’s not regretting the time spent working on your goals.

 

It’s not regretting all the things you had to give up or sacrifice to focus on your dreams.

 

It’s not regretting all the struggles that you could have avoided if it wasn’t for that goal.

 

Even when the results of you giving it your all doesn’t meet your expectations.

 

Even when things don’t go as planned.

 

Even when things go wrong.

 

You accept whatever it is for what it is and live life with no regrets.

 

Aligning with life is finding ways to be happy with whatever the results are.

 

It’s finding the silver lining of things.

 

It’s finding the blessings from all of the shortcomings of life. (or not even thinking of the shortcomings)

 

It’s trusting that life is beautiful no matter what, where, who, how it may be.

 

In the book, Heatherash Amara also mentions that “Life is neither fair nor unfair. Life is a force that constantly moves and changes.” There is a struggle within myself upon reading this that I can’t quite completely comprehend. It’s as if I’ve been living life thinking I’m important that the world revolves around me but obviously it doesn’t. I believe many of us feel this way. We say things like “life is unfair” without realizing that life/world don’t single out things. It just happens that way. It just happened that you’re in this spot today. You’re in this space right now. There is no right or wrong life. Life is just that, it just is. It will keep on moving even if you stop, even when you’re gone, life will just keep on going.

 

The important thing you can do in life is to live life to the fullest. To enjoy each moment, moment by moment and to appreciate what it is that you have. It is to see the world for the beauty and magical thing that it is.

 

This kind of revelation, growth and development takes time. It is said in many books, not just this one, that it will take time and that the only thing that matters is that you keep on moving forward. One of the main things, I’ve read, heard and learned about creating a better life for yourself is that it takes time and dedication. So give yourself some time. Give yourself some credit and also give yourself a break when things are tough! Don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

 

I feel like I write these blogs to remind myself of what I’m learning each day. I’m writing and posting to give myself a break, to give myself some encouragement and to give myself something to look back to when things are tough!

 

I am a working progress and my goal is to live life to the fullest, however, it may come!


Thanks for reading my thoughts for the day!

 

Yours Truly Yours,

 

Piawia!

 

Notes:

 

Heatherash Amara. Warrior Goddess Training: Become the Woman You Are Meant To Be. 2014


10 Ways to Decrease Negativity To Create a More Positive Life!

How to decrease negativity in your life

I know that life doesn’t always turn out as planned and negativity is inevitable but there are some ways to decrease them in your life.  Many people wait for more positive things to come along but in order for more positivism to come into your life you must work for them. You must do some serious look into what we feed our minds and our spirits. We must CREATE a positive life and provide ourselves with a space where negativity doesn’t rule our lives.

So, here are some of my key ideas to decrease negativity to live more positively:

  1. Filter the people you surround yourself with.

Always be in a place where self love can exist for you is a reminder I tell myself and the people close to me. Self Love doesn’t always exist with the people we hang out with. Sometimes you have to avoid or decrease your time with people you’ve known for years. It’s ok, it’s ok to take care of yourself first. It’s ok to realize that some people bring more negativity in your life than positive and to do something about it: avoid, lessen the time spent, etc. Life is about growing and learning what’s best for you and going for it. If you surround yourself with people who you can’t truly be yourself with then that is not a place where self love can exist for you; make necessary changes and start enjoying life more.

  1. Limit your social media binge.

I’ve recently (was able to) limit my social media used. It’s been the most active I’ve been for a while. I finished a book, I’ve been working out everyday (run, gym & yoga) I’ve been eating healthier and been thinking more positively. Social Media is like an addiction. You get succumbed to scrolling and scrolling without realizing that you’ve already spent hours and hours on it. It is the easiest past time and the most unproductive feeling you’ll ever get. So, if you can, limit your time on it. You can do so by first deciding that this is something you’d like to do & then finding ways to do so. For example, you can put a time limit to your social media use, you can just check it when you’re close to a computer (vs on your phone), you can check your social media every other day, etc. There are many ways to do this but you have to decide and then be firm and consistent with your decision.

  1. Avoid negative media: tv shows, radio stations, music etc.

Sometimes I find myself listening to a radio station where the DJ is pressuring the other DJ to do something she/he doesn’t want to do or like shows that make you sad or anxious, avoid that. Of course, everything is preference but if you find yourself sad and anxious all the time, check what you’ve been watching and listening to, it really makes a difference in your mood,  your day and just your life in general.

  1. Meditate or Pray.

Meditating and praying are often perceived as being religious, being too spiritual, etc and many people nowadays are usually afraid to be labeled as such. But, for me, meditating and praying can be however and whatever you’d like it to be; it could be religious or not; it could be spiritual or not. It’s up to you and no one else should be able to tell you what it is but yourself.

  1. Read as many books as you can.

I feel that reading changed my life so much.  With reading, I was able to learn so much more about myself. I started learning why I feel certain things and really got myself out of myself. I have come a long way but I’m sure there are still more to tackle and learn. Reading gives you the opportunity to explore parts of yourself, parts of the world and create imagination beyond the things you already know.

  1. Be thankful & proud of your progress no matter how small or big it may seem.

I cannot emphasize this enough (to myself, lol). Sometimes, you forget to be kind to yourself. One of the things I always hear from running coaches on my Nike app is being gentle to yourself. Be a kind coach, like how you would coach and be there for your friends, that’s how you should be to yourself first and foremost! So yes, celebrate every step and decrease (or if possible, eliminate) negative self talk!

  1. Find a hobby; something you can focus yourself with.

I find that people with a hobby or something to focus their minds to are very happy people. Giving yourself something to look forward to in each and everyday. For example, mine is running, I find myself looking for a run whenever things are tough vs. just sitting around and waiting for the stress to pass by. You can read a book, go for a walk etc. There are many hobbies out there that can help keep your mind at bay. You just have to find what is the right one for you.

  1. Learn to be alone and love your own company.

This one is one of the most liberating experience for me, enjoying my own company. I used to have FOMO all the time and it made it harder for me to create a positive space for myself. Realizing this, I set out a goal to one day be comfortable being alone and then boom: I was watching movies alone, dining alone and enjoying my very own company. I no longer depended on people to do things with me. In turn, I felt that I became more suitable to be around people. I also set higher standards for the energy that is around me. I am more open and confident about myself because I know that I can be happy just being by myself and my enjoyment no longer depended on whether or not I have company but depended on how I feel inside.

  1. Remind yourself that the things people do and say that hurts you are not a reflection of who you are but a reflection of how they feel about themselves & vice versa.

If you feel negatively towards others, there might be a lingering emotions or pains that you need to look into and work thru! This one is still very hard for me sometimes. It’s easier to blame that there is something wrong with other people, to not look within but it is a must. Looking within (no matter how hard it may be) gives you an opportunity to heal and ultimately living a more positive life! No more victim mode and more working on myself mode!

  1. Last but the not least, create and repeat POSITIVE “I AM” affirmations.

I wanted to include “I AM” affirmations because I am learning that whatever comes out of your mouth is what who you become! As I said before, NO MORE NEGATIVE SELF TALK, in exchange, you may start with POSITIVE SELF TALK instead! Start your day by saying positive things about yourself: I AM LOVE, I AM WORTHY, I AM STRENGTH, etc. What you say about yourself is important and it should always be filled with love towards yourself because self love ultimately leads to a more positive life!

Continue reading “10 Ways to Decrease Negativity To Create a More Positive Life!”

How to be More Consistent with Yourself

March 11, 2019: Today I felt refreshed, oh what a wonderful feeling.

I haven’t been myself lately and it completely took me off guard. I was super euphoric at some point and then bam I was kind of sad.

I want to study mental health more. I want to find out different ways to manage these kind of setbacks.

One of the things I keep hearing from my S.O., people I follow on IG, on YouTube and from people I admire and look up to is the word CONSISTENCY.

Being consistent just means showing up, doing what you said you’re going to do even on times you don’t feel like doing it. It’s fighting the curse of excuses and consistently winning over them.

What stops many of us from fulfilling their goals, their dreams and ultimately living the life we desire?

FEAR! For this question, Fear is my answer. A lot of the excuses that we make up are created to justify our fears. Fear of failing, fear of being ridiculed or not taken seriously, fear of judgment and many other forms of fear. Yes, fear comes in many forms and many times those fears create excuses that stop people from being consistent and firm with their plans and their ideas that ultimately prevents their consistency, leaving them stuck and afraid to move forward.

I set out to be braver this year round and my fear still got to me even with superb support system, being it my family, friends and most especially my S.O. I’ve never felt so supported and yet I still let fear hinder my consistency and most specially my growth.

Fear is truly one of the greatest enemy of consistency.

So how do you fight your fears to become more consistent with your words and your goals?

I have some ideas! I hope these ideas and concepts will help you be more consistent with achieving your goals:

  1. Knowing that fear is inevitable. With this in mind, I set myself up to success when I accept that fear will be present. I wonder and ponder on what might I be fearing to make up the excuses? My S.O. tells me, “don’t say you know when you really don’t.” You really have to dig deep sometimes. One of the things that helped me thru figuring out what I’m fearing is writing. I write the question, “why am I afraid of ________?” & then answer it. There are times where I would end up writing, “I don’t really fear this” at the end of my writing that leads me to realizing that the fear I have is not true and continue on to do what I set myself out to do.
  2. Lessening the pressure you put on yourself. I created a challenge to run 2 miles a day from February 11th to February 28th. I was fearful I would fail but one of the things that kept me going was reminding myself to not put so much pressure on myself. When I set up my run for the day, I quietly remind myself that “there’s no pressure & to do what I can.” Keeping that in mind put so much ease on my runs making my runs more enjoyable. I decided to share this journey on social media that ultimately led to Friends joining me on the challenge and they asked me what the rules were and I said, “No rules, No pressure.” I’ve been running for 32 days, as of March 14, 2019, way pass the time frame I had originally set out to do. I feel good and I don’t feel drained. My friends are super grateful and are happy they started the challenge too. If I had let fear set in and decided to not share my challenge, I probably wouldn’t have enjoyed it much and my friends wouldn’t have joined me. I set aside my fear of being ridiculed and my fear of failure. Setting them aside gave me the opportunity to share the joy of accomplishments with my friends and inspire people to be more active too. Not having the pressure I put on myself made myself more accountable and motivated.
  3. Be more organized. Try your best to be more organized, with your thoughts, your plans and whatever else is in your life. One night, I decided to create an online calendar, as my S.O. suggested {I talk to him a lot}. At first, I was stubborn and thought “No way!” but as soon as I started that calendar, a whole lot of thoughts and worries went out the window. I guess you carry these things on your mind too, the plans, the events, the commitments and many more. As I released these things to put on my calendar, my mind felt at ease, I don’t have to messed up things & I don’t have to miss any events. I can confidently plan, confidently think of other things, confidently focus on other things knowing that I am organized with my days. I also created tasked that I have been checking off each day that makes me feel accomplished vs it just being another day. Organizing can come in many forms too. The key idea of organizing is to have a clear path where your thoughts are not scattered and ultimately alleviate some of your fears of messing up or missing things, events or commitments.
  4. Trust yourself more. I remind myself this all the time. Part of my anxiety battles were brought about because of my self mistrust. For a while, I didn’t trust myself (at all). I’ve come a long way and realizing that Loving Yourself is Trusting Yourself changed my life {for not only the better but for the best}. Even if you fail, even if you make a mistake, even if people are against it, you have to trust that you did the best you could with whatever resources were presented and were available to you. We are all human, we are wired to fail & wired to overcome them too but when we let our fears fight our battles we really don’t get too far. Being brave and fearless can only happen if you give yourself the trust you deserve! Trust that your talented, Trust that you have something important and meaningful to say. Trust that you can inspire. Trust that you are a wonderful human being. Trust that you can overcome all your fears and Trust that you can be consistent with your plans. Just trust and believe in yourself.
  5. “Replace can’t with maybe.” by Alexi Pappas. There’s no other way to word this. I hear and read a lot about the idea that what you say and what you believe to be is actually what happens and what becomes of you. So every time I say things like “I’m not fast”, “I’m not a writer”, or “I can’t do this”, I replace them with more positive thoughts (when I catch it). I am more aware of the thoughts and words I say about myself. I remind myself of words like “not yet”, inspired by Charlie Rocket, to remind myself that there’s always opportunities for growth and even though it feels and seem unattainable, if you ignore those fears, there’s always a chance: a chance to grow, a chance to be faster, a chance to be better, a chance to be who you want yourself to be. So be inspired, follow people who started from where you think you are and witness them face their fears and fulfill the things you dream of to remind yourself that there is always a chance to “replace can’t with maybe.
  6. Another one that I [try to] do and would like to share is to celebrate every accomplishments. It doesn’t matter how small they are, those accomplishments are meant to be celebrated and be proud of. Small things could lead to big things. The little more that you do the closer you get to your goals, the BIG Things. I feel that by celebrating every accomplishments makes being consistent more enjoyable and less pressured. You finished a book, celebrate! You read 3 pages of a book, celebrate! Be grateful for yourself, for trying and for facing your fears! Celebrate yourself for getting up every morning and be grateful for being able to and being given the opportunity just to do something, anything. Celebrate the idea that you are capable and that you have all the opportunities in the world to do what you love you just have to face your fears!

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Forgive, Forget & Love.

January 13, 2019

Today, I realized that I want to write about so many things. As I am starting to type I couldn’t think of putting all my thoughts into one passage. This weekend blessed me with a God Daughter, a 13.1 Mile Finish, a Bullseye, a Spotless Clean Car {for my Dad} & a moment with God I haven’t had in a while, all of which made me grateful for life itself!

 

In this blog, I want to write about my Dad. I’ve been meaning to write about this because this is so close to my heart. MY DAD HAD A STROKE. For the very first time in my life my actual fear happened. I always worried about my parents getting sick and worry about what I would do &  what would happen & then it happens. I was overwhelmed with worry & confusion.

With this incident, I learned a lot about myself and what it means to have a family. You see, not many people know this about me, I was losing faith in mine. The day before my Dad had the stroke, I was angry. Angry at the world for not having my back. I preached and I preached about believing in the Universe but yet I was angry with myself for not trusting that my family had my back. My anger and grudge towards my family caused me to distant myself from them for a while. Of course, they did not know this, it’s not their fault. It was something inside me, I know that my family was there deep inside but the surface part of me was so broken I couldn’t see it myself.  

When the stroke happened to my Dad all of my anger and resentments went away. None of those stupid things mattered. I am just happy he is here with us today. I feel like my family and I are much stronger now than ever.

When that happened so many doors opened up for me. My heart was healed and my mind was clearer: none of those things are more important than loving my family no matter what.

When that happened I realized how short life truly is. I realized how much could change in a day, in an hour, in a minute, in seconds.

When that happened I realized to be grateful for what I have, for what is, for what was and for what is there to come.

When that happened I realized how important it is to learn to love others unconditionally by learning to love myself unconditionally. A different view in life came to me telling me the right way to love someone {I have my Mom to thank for that}.

When that happened I was faced with the reality that I have been selfish.

When that happened I was face with the reality that no one is perfect and that everyone is just doing the best that they could.

When that happened I realized how much my family means the world to me.

When that happened I realized that I was so broken and inflicting all my wounds to my family.

There are many many more things I learned in just that one day. That one moment that changed my life. That one moment that made me want to cherish my time with my parents, to cherish moments of joy and laughter with my family. That one moment that made me realized that I had to heal for others. That one moment that changed my life is the moment I thought I could lose my FATHER. (He is ok, by the way)

“It takes us losing something, someone, ourselves or time to truly appreciate what we once took for granted. I don’t want loss to be the eye opening moment anymore. Why are we so blind to good things?” – Kyle Fasel

Learn to heal yourself instead of inflicting your pain onto others. Learn to heal yourself so that you may cherish the most important people in your life the right way. Learn to heal yourself so that you won’t have any regrets. Learn to heal yourself so that you may help others heal themselves. Learn to heal yourself because you are the only one that could.

My love for my family is an epitome of trust, acceptance (for what is) & forgiveness. Without them my world will never be the same.

 

FORGIVING OUR PARENTS, OUR FRIENDS, OURSELVES

“The holiest of all spots on earth is where an ancient hatred has become a present love.” – A Return to Love, Marianne Williamson.

As always, Thank you for taking a moment to read my thoughts.

Yours Truly Yours,

Piawia.

What Kind of Love Am I Looking For?

January 21, 2019

The question at this very moment: What kind of love am I looking for?

This question came to me as I was scrolling thru my IG account. 

The best gift you are ever going to give someone: the permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough. – Hannah Brencher

It made me wonder about what kind of love/relationship am I looking for…. 

I want a love that challenges me, scares me but never ever changes me………

I keep repeating it to myself. Just be yourself. Be the best version of yourself!

Even while jotting down the things I’ve learned about life and how wonderful it is to be me, I still get my moments. I get embarrassed sometimes because the very friends I inspire and give encouragement and support to are also the friends who I run to when I am having my own issues. But they don’t care, they still love me.

I feel like that is true friendship, sharing the things you learn and inspiring each other to becoming the very best. I think that is some sweet stuff, when you can be completely yourself with your friends without being afraid of being judged. Isn’t that a wonderful thing?

Sometimes friends will need you and sometimes you’ll need them, & there is nothing wrong with that.

I came to realize that the kind of love I’ve been looking for has always been around me anyways.

The kind of love I’ve been looking for has always been here with me… & for many years I struggled with looking so hard for this kind of love. I forced people to stay with me, to do things that are out of themselves just to love me exactly how my friends and my family has always loved me.

I feel like this kind of revelations always come to me…. But without the sense of security within myself, it never stuck. I felt so insecure and lost for many years and finding my true self again has opened up a new world for me.

Yes, I still get hit with anxiety, things/situations still trigger self sabotaging acts, but this time, I know I got my friends, I know I got myself, I know I got my family and there is nothing else I’ll need.

It is true, we need to appreciate the ones that matter the most to us and they are the ones that let you be you, no matter what.

So if any one new comes along I am going to make sure I am going to be myself 100%. 

xoxo,
pia
Enjoy each moment.